Approval from others – learn to let go {VLOG}

Approval from others – learn to let go {VLOG}

In today’s VLOG – we take a step away from our usual subjects – to talk about something that affects most people. The need to be “accepted” or recognized.

It’s a natural human condition. We all like to feel like we received “the stamp of approval” from others. It’s been this way since the dawn of humanity.

Some even say that it’s essential.

And this applies to all communication mediums. In-person. Letters (email). Text messages. And from all corners. Family, friends, acquaintances, strangers, etc. Of course, today’s defacto standard is the “likes” you get from the content you put out via social media or other digital platforms.

However, something quite important is overlooked – and has been for a very long time.

Satisfying Number One FIRST

While acceptance is rewarding – there is one very important entity you need to “satisfy” first and foremost. And that is YOURSELF.

Getting approval from others is worthless long-term if you yourself are not content.

Finding happiness with your own deeds, work, or ideas – is the single most crucial by far. To believe in yourself – and enjoy what you do.

Any external validations are literally just the cherry on the cake.

Some folks go decades of their lives seeking out the approval or acceptance of others (partners, family members, friends). Only to get disappointed with either negative feedback – or even worse, complete non-acknowledgment. This happens a lot when involved with narcissistic personalities. So it is nice (even necessary) for individuals in bonafide toxic relationships to have at least some access to supportive people. It’s just inhumane to be exposed to mean, toxic, hateful people without some relief.

Finding contentment in your own work – minus the “pat on the back” or other ego-enhancing signals – is a sensible level to reach. To never actually need those validations.

While the acknowledgment seems nice – it should never be RELIED on. That is a very slippery slope that almost ALWAYS leads to disappointment.

So the key point here is to find happiness within yourself. Be proud of your work – even if no one recognizes it. Take pride in doing something difficult with success. You do NOT need anyone to validate you. Eventually – and without purposely seeking it out – you WILL receive the recognition you deserve.

Have a great day!

About the author


NJroute22 (site admin) is an avid traveler along NJ Route 22 (and almost all of central New Jersey!) Family man, pet lover, and property owner who has a natural curiosity for everything around.